Those who knew about the real situation of our relationship think that it will only end up into nothing. Actually, we don’t have problems to each other or problems with our relationship to the future in-laws. It just happened that we are in a long distance relationship. Yes! And just like what I told you on my previous post, we are already on our 4th year already.

I can’t say yet that we are already successful in our relationship because we are not yet married and we are still on the process of getting the success we aimed. Even those who are here married with or without children can’t be considered successful. It might be true that they already got the early stages of their success but it’s not yet the real success of their relationship because they still have the chance to break it up. Only those who died with their relationship to their husbands or wives intact are those who can be considered successful in bringing up their relationship.

So, what are the secrets that a couple should do to attain the success of their relationship?

If you’ll ask the experts about this, they will tell you a lot of things… a lot of advices… a lot of stories to hear. And I generalized them into five (5) points, but these five points are equivalent to one, and that is LOVE:

Faith in God

To let you know, before I wooed my girlfriend, I first performed my devotional prayer to God asking him the wife I need in my life. It is because I really believe that good wife is coming from God as written in the Holy Bible, Proverbs 19:14:

14 Houses and wealth are inherited from parents,
but a prudent wife is from the LORD. (New International Version)

Well, actually until now I am always doing my devotional prayer to God. This is the only thing that I can do to make sure everything will be alright.

And by looking at her and by considering her personality and devotion to the service of God, I can say that she’s really the answer to the prayers I did to the Father and I am firm about this. That’s the reason why I tried to keep our relationship up.

We are just human, isn’t it? And we are subject to temptation and faults. In others words there were times that we quarreled over something, or just felt jealous to something and someone. But every time these things happen, we immediately close our eyes and pray to God and confess what happened, then ask His forgiveness and guidance. After we did this, we felt again the strength of our relationship.

Honesty to the agreement

We, even if we are not yet married, have agreement on many things especially those related to our relationship. It serves us our guidelines to avoid anything that can ruin our relationship.

Whatever that have been agreed, we tried to be honest to it. Remember that honesty to your agreement means honesty to your partner.

Communication

If you are into relationship, you need to have a good communication. You need to express what you feel, what you need, and what you want so that your partner will know about them and can immediately think of ways to resolve any problems. However, expressing something should be done in a way that your partner can understand what you really want to tell him or her.

To let you know, I spend a lot of money for our communication. Remember that we are in a long distance relationship. I understand how important our communication is. That is why I bought her cellphones and provided her cellphones load. Everyday we send messages to each other telling each other what we feel, what are we doing and where are we going to.

You might think that what we did is too much, but actually is not. On this way, at least, we feel like we’re together even if we’re too far away from each other.

Trust to each other

Trust to each other will make you confident and feel positive towards your relationship. It is also the one that will reminds you of what to do to avoid the involvement of the third party.

Remember that once you don’t have trust to your partner, you also tend to be dishonest to him or her and the result is that you made the third party enter into your relationship. And you already know what will happen if there are three or more parties in just one relationship.

In order for you to attain trust to each other, you need to practice the first three (3) points I mentioned above: Faith in God, Honesty to the Agreement and Communication.

Memories

Well of course you need to create beautiful memories in your relationship. These memories will strengthen your feeling towards each other.

There are of course a lot of ways to create beautiful memories but I will only mention few of these things:

1. For married couple, make your sexual activities memorable, enjoyable and fantastic. Helping each other reach orgasm is the best thing to do during sex.
2. Show your care to your partner.
3. Help her or him cope her or his own problems.
4. Give him or her memorable items.

…. And some other things that can become a beautiful memories to remember.

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